How to deal with a massive break up

[Penney]

If this is some young couples break up where both parties are like 15 or some lame shit like that and they've only been dating as long as they've started to know each other.

The only solid advice I can actually give is not to try and loosen up with drugs and alchohal with a really twisted mindset. if it was an 'actual' relationship your heads going to be totally fucked and you're going to be pretty depressed already, and trying to get all fucked up drunk or whatever will totally not help your part of it, and chances are you'll just end up like ol penney here. Felt like he had it all without realising it, got dumped, lost mind, still hasnt really gotten mind back.

yay dont do drugs kids

[Biological-Bum]

Heh, I consider you fortunate to even have experienced what it's like to be in a relationship. Nuts like me can't find anyone. I'm too young anyway, as some would say. When shit happens like this, I just write about it until the feeling's stale and I forget about it (for the most part).

[Kremator]

Play Mass Effect 2.

[Smurftyours]

It's better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all.

Well said, actually. Who you quoted?

You ought to be fucking kidding me.

[RawMeat3000]

Alright, that was asshole-ish and stupid. Cheer up man, life will get better.

[TicTac]

I let myself get overwhelmed by emotions, get somewhat depressed, feel like I'll never find someone else.
For some reason, I enjoy feeling like that (though not at ALL like I enjoy having someone who loves me )

Also, @Smuft condescending much?

[Noodles]

I let myself get overwhelmed by emotions, get somewhat depressed, feel like I'll never find someone else.
For some reason, I enjoy feeling like that (though not at ALL like I enjoy having someone who loves me )

Also, @Smuft condescending much?

Not really...

*hint*

Tennyson.

[coder0xff]

My hearts been broken a few times. But I'm a quick learner. Now days I just ignore it as best I can. Go on with daily life. Keep yourself distracted. It's weird though, because you can be totally occupied by something else and not thinking of that person whatsoever, but somehow you still feel that ache deep down, or in the back of your head, or however you like to imagine it. It's gonna hurt. There's no escaping it. But you can choose to not let it make the rest of your daily life miserable. Rely on your friends to cheer you up. And by that I don't mean dump all your emotional baggage on them, I just mean enjoy being with them. Chances are if you were in a serious relationship that you've been neglecting them a little anyway.

[srredfire]

I still don't get why we get these kind of topics, on Interlopers.

Besides isn't the average age on this forum 14 or 15? Hardly an age to date.

So silly, these things deserve to be on teenforums.com or something. Not hurr!

[coder0xff]

Yes, god forbid a forum with a description of "Chat about serious topics and issues," have anything not to do with modding or gaming.

[PureChaos]

If you guys want to hear about a fucked up relationship, I got one for you...

When I was in my early 20's I had met this girl while I was working at Wal-Mart, thought she was cool, so we chatted it up during lunch break & shit, decided it was a good fit, so we started dating. We dated for almost 2 years, Decided to get married & we did. Boy did she change.

Anyway to make a long story short, I came home from work early one day to find her cheating on me. She was a preachers daughter. but here is the twist my friends, she was cheating on me with the Preacher man himself. Needless to say we where only married for a handful of months, and it took me nearly 2 years to get over that. All I basically did was go to work, come home, sleep, go to work, come home and sleep.

I met my current wife in 2003 while in an IRC chat room, we got married in 2005, and we have a beautiful daughter...

So, if you have been broken, beaten & bruised by someone you love, Find something to occupy your time and take that time to heal, you deserve it, and you never know, your soul mate might just jump out & surprise you...

Carry on fellow 'lopers

[Major Banter]

Srred, the average age of everyone above 'Been Here A While' is most likely collectively 20 or more.

I mean, Chaos seems late 20's, I think the doctor is as well, Poisonic is definitely a margin over 20, Blink is, Ad is, Hollow is, etc etc etc.

Add in the members, dumplings and so on - collectively probably 15, yes.

[PureChaos]

I'll turn 31 Feb 21

[MayheM]

Have to say Chaos, that is pretty "F"ed up for sure! WOW!!! I do find it ironic how so many preachers children end up so messed up. It is surely not a very good argument towards saying religious people have better morals than atheists. (See other thread about that)

Anyway, relationships come and go. To be honest many of you guys are too young to even worry about having a "serious" relationship. I see it time and time again and I lived through it myself. When I was younger and in high school I dated several girls and jumped in with both feet. In most cases we dated for a few days and the love word was thrown around like it was a wet sock. Then after a few weeks that would wear off because we spent so much time with each other we got burned out. Too much of a good thing is never really good.

It was not until later that I started having what i would call real relationships. Where it was more about caring for the girl rather than getting in her pants. Those are the hardest relationships to get over because you are truly emotionally involved. Sure if you have a girl who is giving you some ass and that stops you feel hurt and beat up about it, but it is more likely you are pissed that you may not get any play for a while.

But the long and the short of it is this. No matter what the situation, reason, duration of the relationship that has just come to an end there will always be some pain involved. The best thing to do is occupy your time with whatever makes you happy. It is important to get out with friends and have a good time. The reason is, if you are ever going to rebound from a breakup you need to have a good time. No girl is attracted to a whiner. So getting all down about it will only push future options away. But if you go out and have a great time with your friend and some hottie comes along she will be far more interested in a guy out having a good time.

I know this is an oversimplification of the topic, but at the heart of what I am saying there is a lot of truth. It is not the answer for everyone, but I would say it is the normal thing that i have seen...

[PureChaos]

MayheM....i hear ya